The Cause(s) of Bad Language

Here we go again but before we do that, let's recap Boise. 

Sparkle finished her Bronze Grand Championship and less than an hour later, she finished her first obedience title -- and that made her a Versatile Companion Dog, which is a special AKC title for dogs that title in agility, tracking, and agility. Sparkle represents four generations of VCDs. 

The next generation, Claire, had a great show in Boise. 1) She enjoys the show ring; 2) She knows what to do; 3) Shown three days in Bred-by with lovely competition -- was second one day and first the other two days; and, 4) went Reserve to a four-point major on the last day - her third Reserve to a major at nine months old.

And I got to see...

...who sadly now lives in Boise.

But Berkeley moving to Boise is not the Real Bad News. The Real Bad News is about Zoey. 

Yesterday I used more bad words than I have in a very long time.

The short version is that I trusted my instincts on Wednesday, and was unfortunately correct -- Zoey has a liver full of cancer. The reason I used so many bad words yesterday -- and cried so many tears -- is because a new veterinarian at the clinic was a *&^%$# $ %^&*#@. 

Just guess what I do when I encounter a *&^%$#  $%^&*#@?! I write letters about it because in my world, imperfection is expected and forgivable but being a condescending *&^%$#  $%^&*#@ on a *&^%$ high horse is not. And getting in the way of what my dog needed -- well, that is always a really bad idea.

I wrote (among other things):

"Instead of trusting an experienced and informed owner’s belief that her dog needed to be at your clinic, you put up barriers to the care of my critically ill dog. Further, you attempted to deny my dog access to the expertise of her treating veterinarian. And so I went around you and how I did that is a good lesson for you about veterinary practice in a small town – people know each other, and you better believe people talk."

The end result -- after the part where Zoey collapsed in the parking lot -- is that there are people who do the right things, and who are heroes. Cheryl the Vet Tech. Zoey's regular veterinarian who came in on her day off. And another veterinarian at the clinic who has stepped in to help with Zoey's care.

Last night Zoey spent the first night of her life away from home under the care of someone other than family -- literally since the day she was born. Her veterinarian initiated chemo last night -- we wanted to wait until she healed from the biopsies but Zoey does not have that kind of time. If chemo puts her in remission, we get a bounce -- if not, we get days. The morning report is in the positive direction -- please think good thoughts for Zoey.

Thank God I never stopped throwing the ball...

#noregrets

#heartdog

#dontbeanasshole

Update

She is home.

21 comments

by andrea on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 09:35

Sending love to you and to Zoey. Cancer sucks.

by Favorite Auntie... on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 09:36

Bad words indeed, followed by lots and lots of little soldiers heading your direction. We have donuts at work today...amongst them, beaded donuts. Zoey came to mind immediately and now I know why.

by Terri and Peaches on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 09:40

I’m crying and cursing, not about the vet but for you. The biopsy news just sucks. I am so very, very sorry.

I hope treatment brings relief and time.

by Kay Lynn Odle-Moore on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 09:44

Oh Mary-Ann, So sorry that you had to put up with this, but glad that you persisted so that Zoey could get what she needed. Hugs to you and to Zoey. I'm glad you shared this experience as it may help others to speak up instead of just accepting poor care at a veterinarian's office. I'm also glad that your post started with wonderful news - Congratulations on your teamwork with Sparkle and with Claire.

by Susan Parr on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 10:11

I am so sorry you are dealing with this and if screaming bad words from here to kingdom come helps, then by all means do it. We all know how hard this is. Thankfully you pushed past the Vet that didn't believe you and went with your gut and hopefully this person learned a valuable lesson. You might be able to give that kind of care in a big city, but as you said it won't fly in small towns. Hug Zoey and treasure the time you have with her. Hugs

by Jennifer Z on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 10:17

What Susan said. I am so, so sorry.

by Joanna Vatsis on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 12:23

So glad you pushed through! So glad today is positive. Sending more positives your way. May you always stand up for all you know is right and never, ever stop! Blessings on yours and Zoey’s head! And I am in a big city and I detest those vets. My favorite two have retired but I am on the hunt!

by Barbz on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 12:51

Holding Zoey in my thoughts and prayers.

by Kathy L on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 12:51

I am so sorry. I know what Zoey means to you because her daughter means the same to me. My thoughts, prayers and hopes are with you. Bounce Zoey, bounce!

by CA Heidi on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 13:05

I would love to swear here myself, but don't want to offend. I would like to scream, stomp my foot, and most of all, MAKE SOMEBODY FIX THIS. I remember being so sad as a child about this or that -- I am glad I didn't know about what was coming in adulthood.

Zoey. She is in my heart, she is resting in my mind, and in my fervent prayers. There will be beaded doughnuts in our house this weekend.

I wish my superpower was to fix things that quite frankly suck.

XOXO

~H

by Lois, Auggie's mom on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 13:41

I am so, so sorry to hear this most sad news. I too, am sending strength and healing thoughts to you and to Zoey and hope for remission.
And I am cursing the flaw in design that can take our best friends away from us too soon.

by Carrie on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 14:14

Mary-Ann and family, I’m so sorry to read this. And to have a bad experience with a vet was the last thing any of you needed. Love and hugs are being sent from China Lake.

by Lawrence on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 15:05

I am heartbroken for you all. Prayers are with you!

by joan on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 15:17

Sh#@$%^*&^!

by Lynn on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 16:22

Sending all available little soldiers to you. I wish there was more I could do to help. Cancer is evil.

by Robin Korotki on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 18:20

Don't give up yet! There are some amazing things out there, have Faith! What type of cancer? Just had experience with the Cyberknife, sending you healing prayers

by Cousin Julie on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 20:15

Oh Mary-Ann, I am so sorry. Everything I try to write is so insufficient. I love you. I admire and respect your relationships with your girls, and that you continue to breath through these most difficult times. Your love is fierce. Superpowers would be good...

by Mari on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 20:53

Please forgive my bad words, but eff cancer.

Sending lots of love to Zoey!

by Anonymous on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 21:00

Heart is with you... I am sorry my friend. I am here- with coffee, kleenex, shoulder, chocolate, distracting humor.... whatever helps.
Love, Deanna

by Dianne on Fri, 10/20/2017 - 22:04

Thinking of you and your very special ❤️ dog. Hugging her grand daughter closer tonight.

by Kay on Sat, 10/21/2017 - 08:34

Thinking of you and Zoey. Lots of love to you both.

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