Back to Basics, Good-bye Tonsils, Two Pregnancy Updates

In my professional life I actually teach students how to communicate effectively, and so this is a topic I pay a lot of attention to in everyday interactions (and therefore more easily notice all my own screw-ups ;). I am well aware that there are lots of places where the message intended is not the message received. The trick with communication is that we have to carefully translate our thoughts and feelings, and then send them in a way such that another person can accurately discern our meaning -- this is tough.

In this process everyone has a responsibility. The sender of the message has to take the time to consider how to phrase the message in such a way that the essence will be retained when it lands, so to speak, on the intended brain/person. The receiver of the message needs to consider whether the message she perceived is what was intended, knowing full well that personal issues, moods, internal chatter, etc. all tend to shape the way a message is received.

Snark Bombs are a form of communication -- they are those off-the-cuff remarks designed to demean/insult/hurt/put down another person. They are usually indirect and therefore do not invite response, leaving the bombed person sputtering in confusion and disbelief. Marti is ready to go after the Snark Bombers, and she has a good point -- not saying anything can absolutely create a bit of a festering mess. There is nothing wrong with clarifying a person's intention -- if it was a Snark Bomb, doing so lands it right back on the lap of the Bomber, and if it wasn't a Snark Bomb, the person will apologize, clarify and be more careful in the future (one hopes).

None of us are perfect, and create new learning opportunities for ourselves ALL the time (i.e., we make mistakes :). But the only people who get to consistently blurt out whatever is in their head -- no matter how rude -- are small children, people with mental illnesses, and those with dementia. The rest of us need to keep those filters firmly in place and remember to be nice! And if you aren't -- well, you get to talk to Marti... :)

I have a pregnancy update -- two of them!!! First, Sydney -- she had a prenatal appointment yesterday! All is well, and she has gained almost seven pounds so far with the fastest weight gain yet to come. The vet is going to give me their (husband and wife vet team) home phone number so that I can call them at anytime if we have an issue during whelping. Their office is about three miles away, and we really love the whole staff so I am very happy about that. We are getting oxygen for the whelping, talked about dewclaw removal (we only do rear ones as required by the Standard), discussed ordering the limited vaccinations we do, and so on -- a good visit. My guess is six puppies (or maybe five or could be seven ;).

Second pregnancy update -- Cadi has delivered her litter!!!!! No, we were not expecting it but they arrived about three days ago -- so far we have one purple toy (adopted from Liz, Sam, and Tara), one black boot, and the Most Beloved Mr. Wonderful II. Cadi has been moved to her own room as all her growling at the other dogs who dared near her babies was causing confusion, and so now she just stays in that room with her new family.

This is  all well and good except she requires her meals in her room, and refuses to leave to potty. The only way I can get her out is to steal Mr. Wonderful II and lure a frantic Cadi outside. I then have to hand him over or else she sits and barks at me -- sigh. So I give her the baby, she does her business (warning -- potty picture)...

And then goes right to the door to be let back in -- Mr. Wonderful II apparently isn't ready for the outdoors yet.

And speaking of Mr. Wonderful -- another wonderful young man is about to lose some body parts!!!! Tomorrow our very own Alex (Cooper Whitby's human brother and Ace Camp Kaibab Camper) is getting his tonsils and etc. taken out!!!!! Yikes!!!! Let's all practice niceness by sending him good wishes and advice for how to make the most of his surgical experience -- my girls have a special picture planned for tomorrow's Blog! Alex is a faithful Blog reader so post your nice thoughts in the comments...

And have a fantastic day, spreading carefully constructed niceness all over, and enjoying your tonsils (if you have them).

12 comments

by Aunt Heidi on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 07:32

Ice cream and lots of it! I think that one of the boy puppies should be Heidi Alex!!! That.....is an awesome name!!!

by Lisa K on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 07:33

Excellent post! Glad Mr Wonderful II has a purpose, because we all have one, of sorts! What a great prenatal visit! Go Syd!! Pictures were hilarious and I loved the *warning* of a potty pic coming up!
Communicating is indeed a difficult thing. Some days I am great at it, others, well, not so much. This is the journey, apparently!
Alex, I kept my tonsils until I was a senior in college, then they came out. Let me just say that you are lucky young man to be getting them out now. Good luck w/the surgery, play it for all it is worth to your sweet mom! ;-) Enjoy all the yummy stuff you get to eat post-op! Nothing but the best for you!!

by Jennifer G. on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 09:08

This blog serves so many purposes, I couldn't begin to list them....it's just FANTASTIC!! Alex will love to read the messages when he gets home...Thanks!! And Heidi is clearly a puppy naming genius!:) Such a great group of non snark bombers here! And thanks Lisa...I'm sure Alex will milk it for all it's worth without the least bit of encouragement:) He'll also have Cooper sleeping in bed with him when I'm not looking since "it's the only think that will make me feel better mom!"

by Lisa K on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 09:56

Oh Jenn, you know I just had to help you out a bit! ;-) Hope you all weather the tonsilectomy just fine!! Go Alex!!!!

by cindy heintzberger on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 09:18

Dear Alex - I will certainly be thinking about you tomorrow. Like Lisa, I had my tonsils out when I was in nursing school so you are very lucky to be doing that now - it really did get rid of all of those nasty sore throats.

Just remember to swallow even though it hurts - ice water was my favorite as it didn't sting!!!

Gracie sends you a big berner hug with kisses :) !!!!

by Lois on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 10:55

Go Syd...keep growing those sweet little puppies! Oh Cadi - How funny and we are reminded that 'families' come in all forms!
Now for Alex...we met at the Oregon City draft meet (is that the right term?) anyway, I still have my tonsils so can't offer personal advice but I was a pediatric dietitian when kids used to stay in the hospital for tonsillectomies and all I remember was ice crea, ice cream, ice cream. But I really agree that having Cooper sleep on your bed would really help...I know it would me!

Good healing to Alex and dreaming of puppies!
Lois

by Barb on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 15:59

Alex--I hope everything went well. Zaida sends a sloppy kiss and says she would sleep on your bed too!
How funny that Zaida and Cadi had their "babies" at the same te.
Having never experienced this before- I see where it came from.
Being a horrible parent I left her litter at home when we left for the dog show this morning...I bought her two replacement puppies at the show- an octopus and a squeaky pink thing. they seem to be ok substitutes...
I hope tomorrow's blog shows my favorite junior handler and Cooper sharing some ice cream!!

by Barb on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 15:59

Alex--I hope everything went well. Zaida sends a sloppy kiss and says she would sleep on your bed too!
How funny that Zaida and Cadi had their "babies" at the same te.
Having never experienced this before- I see where it came from.
Being a horrible parent I left her litter at home when we left for the dog show this morning...I bought her two replacement puppies at the show- an octopus and a squeaky pink thing. they seem to be ok substitutes...
I hope tomorrow's blog shows my favorite junior handler and Cooper sharing some ice cream!!

by Alex on Thu, 09/29/2011 - 21:01

Thanks for all the nice comments. Lucky for my mom I sleep in the top bunk so Cooper can't sleep with me. Maybe I'll sleep on the floor. I hope Cadi doesn't steal her grandkids. And Zaida should stay away from them too. But I hope she does good at the show!

by Liz on Fri, 09/30/2011 - 00:06

Alex, Tara sends lots of love and berner "leans" your way as you go in for your big surgery tomorrow. I'm sure you will feel so much better after those tonsils come out, and I hope you get lots of Cooper kisses, your favorite candies, and some cool new stuff to tinker with as you recover!

~ Liz, Sam, Tara, and Kiko the pug

by Liz on Fri, 09/30/2011 - 00:08

Oops, Alex was on my mind and I completely forgot to say how I laughed out loud at Barb and M-A's stories about Zaida and Cadi and their phantom litters... I didn't realize dogs could do this, it's new to me, and I think it is just so fascinating and fun! And I love the photos of Cadi with Mr. Wonderful II...

Cheers,

Liz, Sam, Tara, and Kiko

by The Other Heidi on Thu, 10/06/2011 - 22:23

every man, even Mr. Wonderful II needs to get his head chewed on occasion. It keeps that pesky ego in check. And like a good girl, Cadi does it under the guise of "loving" him! :-D

Good girl.

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